Marriage is Forever

When we remember that marriage is forever, we separate short term desires and issues from the long term eternal goals.

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  1. fieldsmarriageblogSeptember 23, 2017 at 9:13 PM

    Elder Oaks has stated the solution to most marriage difficulties is "repentance rather than divorce", even as many countries have made it easier and easier to dissolve marriages.
    This ease of marriage dissolution has come as an unforeseen consequences of allowing wives the power to get out from under abusive relationships when the aggressive side off the equation doesn't want to relinquish. The laws have been changed to let either of the relationship move for an end to the union regardless of the other sides wishes, and therefor has given both sides an "easy out" when difficulties arise. This simplification of marriage is not what the Lord intended, and turns what is meant to be an eternal union into a legally binding union of convenience.

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